The Season Of No! By Clay Burton Well folks you have heard others say it. And behavioral specialist, therapist and coaches like myself, do suggest it quite often. "Learn To Say No!" and "It's Ok To Say No". But, like many advocates, parents, teachers and leaders do, they/we, tend not to do, what is suggested that we all do. lol! Yep, that's me. I have the knowledge, wisdom and experience, but often may not apply the wisdom to my own self. Even positive intentions can lead up to negative results. Like when we are doing too many things, at one time, all the time, for too long, while thinking that we must be everywhere and do everything for the sake of others needs first. We may believe, that by doing so, we are unselfishly giving. And what is really, really deceiving is when we believe that by over-extending ourselves to the point of physical/mental/emotional exhaustion, we may actually "feel" that by doing so, all of our good deeds will compensate, for our lack of proper self-health-care. It's like discerning The Serenity Prayer. God, Grant Me The Serenity To "Accept" The Things That I Cannot Change. e.g.Things that I am, Powerless over. God, Grant Me The Courage To "Change The Things That I Can Change" e.g. Action, activism and advocacy. And God, Show Me Your Wisdom, So That I May Understand The Differences between The Two. e.g. Spiritual Discernment. Spiritual Discernment being the most effective means for "knowing" or "knowledge for" what am I doing. What I should be doing, and what it is to I should stop doing, so not to keep doing the same wrong things over and over, still waiting for things to work out the way that "I Want Them Too". My will, is not his will for me. Things work out when his will comes first, so I can see the difference. It's not as difficult as I can certainly make it out to be, but is rather easy in its simplicity. The simplicity" is, "Do this, that happens, do that, this happens|. It it always the consequential outcomes and results. Pray Tell, "The Law Of Attraction". The Law Of Attraction, is a widely accepted theory, that is more than theory as the consequential outcomes and results of positive or negative attraction argues that our actions reap positive rewards and vice versa for negative ones There you have it. Easy peasy right? But for some, or many, or perhaps the masse, like me, for such a long time, the fire was never hot enough. And being the curious experimenter, that I am by nature, I wasn't quite sure if my hands were burning as was told to me, by so many people, on so many occasions, throughout my lifetime. As if I were trying to prove that the fire was not hot, as they say it is. Because no one is going to tell me what to do. I'll Show You! (Ouch, ouch!) Yep, for folks like me, the enemy of God, known by many names, loves to nurture my ego and self-will. Because, its only purpose is to separate me from God, and to see me spiritually disabled or dead. This adversarial force has no power over me. However it does have influence over my feelings and self-desires. It lies to me. Indoctrinating. It convinces me, that I deserve, all that I have been deprived of. It empathizes with my feelings, and strokes my emotions, while telling me that righteously, I am entitled to seek revenge on all those who I had blamed, who have hurt me. And so I hurt myself, going round and round, in circles, from having daily expectations of vengeful justice, and going nowhere at all. And so, once again, I finally, learned to say, No. Enough! Lord! I can't do it, but you can. I am your servant and messenger and together we can do anything! Thanks for letting me share!
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AuthorHowdy there. My Name is Clay Burton. I was born in Galveston County, Tx in 1963 and have lived in Hitchcock Tx. for at least 40 years now. but only the past year or so I have become a very active volunteer in local community services here in Hitchcock. Categories |