LOL! No, I am not angry!
But I have discovered since I have been sharing my personal story post-experiences and observations for about a year now the most readers that I get at one time are when I make post topics on human behaviors.
I make these posts in hopes of offering some understanding, and suggestions on how to possibly overcome emotional setbacks our lives or cause us negative and even harmful outcomes.
This is cool because these areas of behavioral science such as psychology, sociology, psychopathy, neuropsychology, and psychiatry as an amateur, are my fields of interest and I consider myself a "Student of Interest".
So as usual in my story post, I share from where, my uncredited, credentials developed.
This basically means if you love gardening, mechanics, coin collecting, or anything that you enjoy doing all the time and have for a long time then that makes you an expert at what you love to do.
You may get an academic degree or certification training or simply give experienced advice to those who share your interests. Either way, you are a knowledgeable teacher.
However, I am not a deeply, studied university-educated professional scientist, of course. But I like to read and research what they write about and teach.
I am more like a very curious kid, with severe Bipolar disorder 2 who lived a very self-destructive life for decades.
But at the same time, I possessed naturally the ability to observe and evaluate, my own negative behaviors as I grew up. But also at the same time, I could not stop doing what I was doing to myself and others until I learned how to stop.
I was aware of what was happening to me, But I didn't know why? And I wanted to know, Not unlike most abused kids I didn't understand what I did so wrong that I was being treated so badly.
Naturally, as I grew up as a product of these environments I believed that was who I was and lived that way. And all my choices were bad. I Was Angry and I wanted everyone to know it!
And the only way I could slow down long enough from Mania was from, God's Grace, and the medication that he sent to me through actual psychiatric-scientist and the support and love from my recovery community, with all my brothers and sisters there like me.
So I had a direct association as a client, peer, and patient in many different areas of emotional problems and behaviors
I used to be angry all the time! For most of my life 57 years! But I rarely get angry today. Although I do still get mad, frustrated, impatient, intolerant, and teed-off! But that is not angry,
And my recovery time now is fast. I can recognize my triggers when they are occurring to me before I make a hasty and remorseful judgment from anger.
Because I do not like the feeling of being angry anymore and today my life span of time is short and each moment is precious. Besides what will I tell God if he asks me, 'Was I Happy?" How would I feel if I was always angry?
But that may be one challenge of many that God placed upon our human emotions to see how we manage things. But how we display them and how our emotions can be used to express ourselves can be wonderful, warm, caring, and/or beneficial.
But they also can be harmful, bring unwanted consequences, and/or cause irreversible damage.
Emotions build our character and are a big part of developing the quality of our personalities, characteristics, cognition, coping mechanisms, etc. that can determine our reactions, responses, and behaviors towards life's common and inevitable, multifarious, circumstances and situations.
What occurs from our actions and reactions is the outcomes Good or Bad, Great, or Regretable. So this story post today will focus on one of the most consequential of all human emotions. AnGeR! Likely the negative outcomes can lead to Jails, Institutions, or Death!
They can destroy relationships or rekindle them by bringing a closer love from reconciliation. In other words Kiss and Make-Up. Woo Hoo!
When spouses or friends discover that they have overcome their arguments, disagreements, or anger towards each other then what has been established when these types of divisive emotional problems do occur, is security developed from believing that, "Hey, if we can overcome this, then we can overcome anything that comes our way in the future that would otherwise create barriers of negative feelings.
Love or Anger Grows. It's All Up To Us.
That's is if both parties want to overcome other issues or not. Many issues can derive from stresses of all kinds. Financial, Health, Losses of Loved Ones, Divorce, Unemployment, Debt, etc.
And drugs and alcohol do not help but do escalate the actions and reactions of anger. These can lead to all kinds of abuses. Mental, Verbal, Physical, and/or Emotional abuse can impair and consume a person's life.
But there are many options for healing out there. Sharing with others in support groups to discover that you are not alone by far in all the trauma and you will see and hear that others have been through what you have in similar and different ways as well.
There is a process to all this. There are acquired methods, tools, skills, and education that will arm you in defense and offense as we go into an emotional battle with ourselves.
But To The Victors Go The Spoils Of War! We are no longer victims of fear, abuse, misery, depression, anger, and emotional pain. The More We Know The Less The Scars Rule Over Our Lives!
For me, there were 4 general stages.
Stage1. Willingness. I had to take the hand of someone. They told me that I didn't need to do or know anything, except try to trust. They told me that I had nothing to lose or worry about, and I had a mountain of relief, peace, and even happiness to gain over time.
Stage 2. Knowledge. The new awareness that you develop means more understanding of what had happened to us and why it did.
Stage 3. The New Anger. This was a new and positive way of channeling anger that allowed me to gain freedom from emotional bondage. The angry force that was needed to break the iron chains.
Stage 4. The New Freedom. Yet another revelation!
"It Wasn't My Fault!.
I Didn't Ask For This!
And I Did Not Give Permission For Anyone To Harm Me!"
This was another waking opportunity for understanding. It leads me to more positive anger. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh! Yes! Let It All Out! Here! Hit This Pillow! Do It Again! Scream At It!
Stage 4. The Tears Roll. After the exhaustion from so much energy being released, one may come to the tears, as they cleanse the Fury with Purifying Fire! At least for now. We practice with each other in these support groups.
"Cleanse the Fury with Purifying Fire! It just sounded so cool and dramatic. LOL! But you git it right?
As we cry undescribably we may hear our peers laughing, as the room embraces you with hugs. They are not laughing at you but are reflecting on themselves, as they went through this process.
They too remember experiencing the first time feelings of Surrender and Letting Go!
But those making peace with their demons is not a large population of folks on the planet out of Billions.
Understandably so. Especially depending on the severity of the abuses or event trauma, that they had been exposed to. Healing takes a very long time. It takes years! It takes the rest of your life!
But the Great News is that from the very moment you start. the healing journey begins. And for many, freedom comes from the pain.
And in about a month you will Feel So Much Better! Now you have new hope and faith in your peers. You have a new family and a new Love.
And you may believe that there is a kind and forgiving God, That sees and Loves us as being "Perfectly Imperfect" as we were intended to be!
Now we can make sense where there was before only confusion and senselessness. And now our most horrible experiences can be our Greatest of Wisdom! Now we may help others with a passion who suffered as we once did to begin to heal.
Make it all work for you. Use the past to your favor. Pass it on, pay it forward. Take comfort in that this new amazing life we now have of purpose and reason that can save lives and could not have been possible without knowing what we know from what we went through.
Now we are responsible to help others. Because we survived it all. Now we are leaders. Despite Free Will, we feel we have no choice in order to keep what we now have we "must" give it away.
And it feels so good that it isn't a "Have To" but a "Want To". It feels so good I fact that you want to do it all the time! It becomes the reason why we are here.
We may share from our experiences that "It's Ok To Be Angry. It's A Human Emotion. It's a Natural Feeling To Be Angry.
But Teach-In Wisdom, "Don't Stay Angry For Too Long"
Ah! So now we are discussing how harboring Anger is a disease that acts like a virus that eats at our hearts, minds, and souls.
And in the spiritual sense, we all know that to every light side of life there is a very dark place that leaves us vulnerable to the opposite of good and of God. The very clever, yet sinister adversary, known by many vile names.
The only reason for its existence is to destroy humankind. And it has hundreds of thousands of ways to get us Angry. But every way it tries is all derived from one root all negative emotions. Fear.
Want a tip from me? Don't even be angry at the enemy of God. Its what it does. It is its only job.
What if you used that positive anger you learned about to release your demons and then you realize that it was the enemy all along that had been influencing you to hold onto your pain that caused you so anger and depression to only be angry at the enemy?
That Is What It Wants. It Does Not Care Who You Are Angry r At Or What About, As Long As Your Anger Keeps You Where You Are. You Are A Prisoner In Your Own Cell Holding The Key.
Ok here's yet another example of anger to discuss, Anger From Fear.
Perhaps you have heard of "The Fight-or-Flight Response" (also known as the "Acute Stress Response", which refers to a physiological (psycho-social) reaction that occurs when we are in the presence of something that is mentally or physically Terrifying to us. Yes In Fear Mode!
The term "Fight-or-Flight" represents the choices that our ancient ancestors had when faced with danger in their environment. They could either fight or flee. In either case, the physiological and psychological response to stress prepares the body to react to the danger.
So as an example. If a dog is very scared of being cornered with no way to escape, then the stress is (Fight) and the dog may get vicious and ferocious! But if it were possible for the dog to run away then the stress is (Flight)
As with we humans, our nervous system stimulates the "Adrenal Glands", triggering the release of such biochemical hormones such as (Adrenaline and Noradrenaline).
And we all know what that means!? Whether it be Extreme Sports, Winning The Lottery, or Murder its a RUSH!
This "Syndrome" is a chain of reactions that increases Heart Rate, Blood Pressure, and Breathing Rate. If the danger passes and the threat is gone, it takes between 20 to 60 minutes for the body to return to its pre-arousal levels.
And within these few seconds, the worst can occur and it can be too late to undo what had been done.
If you have anger issues then Please seek Anger Management Help from programs, therapy, counseling, or classes.
If you don't seek out help a Court Judge may appoint you. And worse if you harm yourself or others then you have the jails, institutions, and even deadly consequences mentioned earlier in this post.
And if you harm someone you that you love? Then you may never be able to live with the guilt from the reget. And you have lost your rights and freedom while living in a brutal environment. Sorry to be so harsh but its a harsh subject.
Now, let's discuss again, "The Right Reasons To Be Angry At The Right Things!"
Allow me to explain...ahem....."I HAVE HAD ENOUGH! I WILL NO LONGER SIT HERE AND TAKE YOUR ABUSE! GET OUT! NOW!"
Oooooooooooooooooooooooo Weeeeeeeeeeee! Yes, Baby!
Find Out What It Means To Me!
Or How Bout This One?
At first, I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinking I could never live without you by my side
But then I spent so many nights thinking how you did me wrong
And I grew strong
And I learned how to get along
And so you're back
From outer space
I just walked in to find you here with that sad look upon your face
I should have changed that stupid lock, I should have made you leave your key
If I'd known for just one second you'd be back to bother me
Go on now, go, walk out the door
Just turn around now
'Cause you're not welcome anymore
Weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye?
You'd think I'd crumble?
You'd think I'd lay down and die?
Oh no, not I, I will survive
Oh, as long as I know how to love, I know I'll stay alive
I've got all my life to live, I got all my love to give
I Will Survive!
I Will Survive!
Woo Hoo! Ok Folks! Thanks for letting me share once again!
Howdy there. My Name is Clay Burton. I was born in Galveston County, Tx in 1963 and have lived in Hitchcock Tx. for at least 40 years now. but only the past year or so I have become a very active volunteer in local community services here in Hitchcock.